How To Change Others
We can’t change other people—it will always be their work, their decisions, and their intention that leads them to their change. Some people won’t ever change, and it’s okay to let go. Sometimes you have to accept things without understanding them. By accepting other people’s limitations, you free yourself from being harmed by people who can’t or won’t show up differently.
Trying to convince people to be what you need only harms yourself. Expecting people to do something other than what they’ve continually demonstrated they’re capable of is self-betrayal.
We often assume people are as we imagine them—a compilation of the emotional experiences we’ve had with them—as opposed to the patterns they reveal to us in their behavior. It’s so much more accurate to sum people up by what they repeatedly do.